You can change your mentality about food. You can diet. You can exercise. You can change your lifestyle.

But if you want to truly lose the weight permanently you must evaluate what led to the weight gain in the first place. Obviously in the case of a health issue or medical disorder, a weight increase is explained. But I’m talking about those of us who simply gave up on and abused ourselves.

There is an underlying cause, generally an emotional one such as unexpected loss, betrayal, divorce, abuse, depression, addiction, etc. Once you pinpoint the underlying cause you must drill down even further and calculate what was the exact hurt, why you let the hurt fester and why you know now to break that cycle of re-injuring the wound. There is strength in the troubles we endure…use that power now for self-care instead of self-abuse.

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Deej’s Six Points of Living Well

What is living well? First thought is being financially-well off. But no. Living well, to me anyway, is practicing joyfulness, being grateful, practicing self-care, putting good in the world, living each day stylishly and ignoring the naysayers.

Practicing Joyfulness – Smile, wave or speak to people you dont know, compliment anyone, realize happiness is a journey not a destination
Being Grateful – Thank the universe and higher power for what you have, no matter how little
Practicing Self-care – Eat well, exercise, mental health, affirmations, meditation, prayer, learning or trying new things
Putting Good in the World – Abandon harsh chemicals and words, be a positive light in the lives of those around you
Living Each Day Stylishly – Light candles, use your good dishes, make an effort with your appearance, make someday today
Ignore the Naysayers – Reject your ego, stop listening to those who dont want the best for you. For that alone, they dont matter or provide value to you.